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ONLY NICE THINGS
10:02 / 30.11.04
How do we feel about other forms of racism? And when I say racism, I don't mean unexamined racist attitudes, which I certainly think should be challenged vigorously, however tiresome it may be, but racist comments delivered without any context. Does it make a different if they are hilarous? I'm thinking of this post - relevant excerpt:

Does Magneto and his children speak with thick East European brogues? Do Pietro and Wanda over-pronouce certain letters in words and do they smell of cabbage like all gypsies inherently do (I can be derogatory to gypsies because none of them know how to use a computer)?

Obviously, Psionicnurse is young and may not have English as a first language, but that doesn't stop there being a big stinking turd in the middle of this thread. Especially in light of the consideration of reopening the board, can we have a think about what is and is not unacceptable behaviour?
 
 
Benny the Ball
12:07 / 30.11.04
There is a tendency for comments to spiral in either direction - some seem a little near the bone, some seem to be used as defence (one thing I really dislike is when someone plucks the race card out of nowhere as means to argue a point, it's crass in my opinion).
Ricky Gervais said that a big difference in how racism is perceived is whether or not its source is hate or in the playing of the role of an idiot. The Producers was used as an example - is the film racist or funny?

On a personal note, I don't really find much offensive, but know that people can, so tend to steer clear of even jokey comments unless I know that I am around people who know that I am 'playing the role of an idiot'. It can be easy either way to take offence at the drop if a hat or to be insenstive of how others will take what you say.

Although I got into a disagreement on another board once about the term Pikey being offensive or not, and realised that it's not worth arguing a point over such subjects as the internet is too cold and impersonal to make a valid point about a heated subject without losing some of the humour of the person behind it.

For the record, I'm white, dad's Irish, and he's family, like my mothers, are settled Romany travellers, but, as I said, I don't take offence over gypsy/pikey etc comments too easily (at work I get a lot of crap about thieving/running water etc, but the people making the points are idiots and not a part of my life, so doesn't bother me - I don't work with them often before any one says that work is a part of my life, I work contractually).

I would hope that a certain degree of self-censorship would exist on the board, as most people seem intelligent enough.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
12:17 / 30.11.04
Interestingly, the accusations of political correctness are starting to gear up in the Comic Books thread, and so should hopefully shortly be funnelled here. It always amuses me that people who generally identify as anarchists/socialists think nothing of dragging out a term used as a pejorative exclusively by the right-wing media when they are feeling a bit threatened.

[Peep Show] I hate Political Correctness gone mad as much as you do, but some things are fair enough and some things are just not on...

So far, as near as I can tell, case for the defence is:

1) Nobody who has read the thread so far has expressed offence, therefore it cannot be offensive. Of course, I *have* expressed offence, but of course that does not matter because of
2) PC gone mad
3) Gypsies have always been called smelly and stupid - you may as well stop complaining about it
4) Gypsies are extinct. Like cro-magnon man. So you can say whatever you like about them.

I'm not seeing a lot of value in these criticisms. I'd suggest that the case should perhaps be made on freedom of speech (man), which then kicks off a discussion on what we should leave and what we should remove as infringing others' right to enjoy Barbelith.

I'm seeing the Fetch as our case in point here. The Fetch himself is a bit of a different case, being a persistent and rabid nutter (though one who did try to tone it down for Barbelith), but the argument in his favour - in essence, that he had some interesting things to say about conspiracy theories, and if he just happened t talk about the international Jewish conspiracy and the Protocols of the Elders of Zion, that did not invalidate the interest his posts held for those on Barbelith who liked to read about conspiracy theories - might be a useful comparison. So, in essence, you should forgive people's excesses in the interests of freedom of expression.

I had thought that that was generally the case - that the only offence on Barbelith was trolling, and mere stupidity or offensiveness did not justify moderation or administrator action. *However*, the Fetch situation, and Tom's explanation of it, seems to alter that. Likewise the comment that a valued member of Barbelith, when ze joined, nearly left again at once because the Greenland Posse were doing their anti-Semitic thing.

Which I think is maybe what it comes down to. There is a whole Internet out there that would _love_ to listen to the funny gypsy jokes, or indeed the Jewish conspiracy theories - Barbelith doesn't have to provide that space. What Barbelith might want to provide is an environment where people can speak without worrying that they are going to read something that makes them, to quote Persephone in her upbraiding of my own insensitivity some time ago, feel like they have been stabbed in the eye. That is, that at any moment their race (for example) could be the next one singled out for some locker-room hilarity.

On preview - Benny, you'd hope that, wouldn't you? However, we have now had one person kicked off the board for anti-Semitism, and Tom has stated that if he had seen other examples of racist language at the time, he would have banned those users as well. That is, the rulings have changed, perhaps partly because the user base of Barbelith has changed.

More generally, you may not be offended by anti-gypsy insults, but, and this is a quite big but (which I like, and I cannot lie), there may be other people on Barbelith who are, whom you have shouted down in the Comic Books thread by telling them that any objections they may have are going to be mocked as "PC gone mad" - for which, see above.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
12:24 / 30.11.04
More generally, *even if* there is nobody reading who is a) of travelling stock and b) offended, that doesn't necessarily mean it is entirely without effect. First up, if you can call gypsies stinky and stupid, why can't you do the same hilarious stuff with Jews, or black people, or teh gheys? How can an objection be sustained? Second up, what if somebody who is (a) arrives on Barbelith, is (b) and departs immediately, warning off as he or she does a whole bunch of his or her interesting and intelligent friends?
 
 
Benny the Ball
12:28 / 30.11.04
I get you Haus, and I'm spread the posts across the threads which is daft as points are being made to you through both.

I wasn't insinuating that you were PC gone mad, I was attempting to point out that the thread had gone a bit stupid, there were questions about Marvel, but there were comments that could offend and don't belong on the board, my point was aimed more at the seeming fuss kicked up when you had pointed out that the post could be offensive, as though your pointing out offense was in itself more offensive.

I mention my own sensibilities to highlight that I'm not just flaring up or ranting, but trying to suggest a certain degree of temperment.

If there is to be a policy, then it should be universal. If we are to trust our fellow 'lithers, then this should be the policy.

The example of conspiracy theory is interesting. Jon Ronson has been mentioned in another post in Film and TV in relation to anti-semitism aimed at David Ike.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
13:30 / 30.11.04
I wasn't insinuating that you were PC gone mad, I was attempting to point out that the thread had gone a bit stupid, there were questions about Marvel, but there were comments that could offend and don't belong on the board, my point was aimed more at the seeming fuss kicked up when you had pointed out that the post could be offensive, as though your pointing out offense was in itself more offensive.

I don't think that's the impression you gave, but fair enough... I did try to edit the above to remove specific reference to your use of PC, when Cromagnet's is just as good an example. And yeah, if there's one thing that's guaranteed to upset people, it is suggesting that they might not have the casting vote on what is or is not offensive. We don't have a firm policy on random outbursts like PsionicNurse's, and we probably should, which I hpe we can get from this thread.

To recap, and before anyone says it. Hyperbole aside, I am quite happy to believe that PsionicNurse is not a racist. However, he has made a racist statement, hilarious though it may be and, this being a message board, that racist statement is going to be there until or unless someone does something about it. PsionicNurse's right to post it is being vigorously defended in the Comic Books thread, but so far not in the Policy, despite the link. Do we have a policy on this? What I, personally, don't want is a scenario when the board reopens and those who join are confronted with excrescences which either a) drive them away, thinking Barbelith is a place where hate speech is not taken seriously or controlled or b) make them think "great! Somewhere I can tell the truth about (insert minority of your choice) without being censored".
 
 
Spatula Clarke
14:46 / 30.11.04
PsionicNurse's right to post it is being vigorously defended in the Comic Books thread

I don't think that's really the case, Tann. Instead, what seems to have happened is a couple of fucktards have taken more notice of the fact that it's *you* pointing out the turd that's been dumped in the thread than they have the turd itself, and done the usual thing of deciding to take the opportunity to go down the highly original 'comment from Haus = PC fascism' route. Which is entirely a comment about their intelligence.

What's possibly more worrying is that, not for the first time in recent memory, a fuckwitted piece of bigoted shit has been posted and read without attracting negative comment from a section of the board. Nice going, people.

What to do about this sort of thing? Well, as you say, there are plenty of other places on the Internet where comments like this will be allowed without complaint. Welcomed, even. This is not - should not - be one of them. I don't think that Barbelith would be the poorer for the absence of those prone to posting dickheaded ignorance like this, so I personally wouldn't be at all upset to see members submitting obviously and unrepentantly racist comments booted immediately. Would we really be losing anything of worth? Chucking the Greenland Posse from the board didn't lead to its collapse, and it could be argued that they were, for a short period of time, a fundamental part of what Barbelith was.

The less severe option is that such comments are identified and attacked as soon as possible, making it obvious that they're not acceptable on Barbelith (which should be a given, but again recent history suggests otherwise). Then, if they're seen to be indicative of on-board behaviour that the poster has no intention of altering, access to the board will be removed. One warning, then deletion of the username.

If the plan to charge for membership goes ahead, this is something that *has* to be sorted out.
 
 
Bed Head
15:14 / 30.11.04
PsionicNurse might just be an idiot, and capable of wising up. If people really can’t judge the tone of the place for themselves, if they’ve really missed previous iterations of the same arguments, then I’m all for the warning.

But, being defended by Cromagnet? That’s *warning bells* in itself. Might I suggest that cromagnet/smart mass/coma wendigo is a rather unpleasant individual - some haven’t forgotten the last time ze displayed bizarre notions about what is and isn’t acceptable behaviour, and duly received a ‘final warning’ for the deep offence ze caused on that occasion. Mentioned as being relevant in this case because hir defence then was a bleat about ‘freedom of expression’.

Still doesn’t seem to get it. Is there really anything to be gained from continuing to allow this particular poster the ‘freedom’ to leave his little contributions all over Barbelith?
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
15:21 / 30.11.04
Yeeesh. I'd quite forgotten about deadbabygate...
 
 
Tryphena Absent
17:19 / 30.11.04
Perhaps PsionicNurse would like to read up on the culture that PsionicNurse is so happy to generalise so sweepingly?
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
18:04 / 30.11.04
That's a very good idea.

Meanwhile - yeah, PsionicNurse is hopefully provincial rather than hateful. She does live somewhere sufficiently off the trade routes that she probably doesn't encounter much heterogeneous culture. I've posted some links in the thread, since i doubt she will follow the discussion here.

On challenging... I think there's a balance between rotting a thread and showing that certain behaviours are not tolerated. I'm not sure where the bar is. Derailing a 360-post thread to call somebody on their shit is a bit of a big step, and, realistically, people on the 360th post of a thread about obscure Marvel Comics trivia *may* not be the most likely to be concerned about a bit of gypsy-bashing. This is one reason why I think a thread like this - and the preceding ones on racism in the Conversation and anti_Semitism in the Temple are useful - because moderators and Tom read the Policy, but may well not read Comic Books or Temple...
 
 
tituba
07:54 / 01.12.04
Ooo Haus, the liberator and emancipator of downtrodden and ill-treated minorities the world over. Will you save all the little brown children and protect Chinese pensioners from persecution? Your medal is in the mail, hero (a medal to help assuage your white guilt).

Get a hobby you fucking lame-o (and yes, I can't speak English properly but that can most likely be attributed to the fact that I'm black).

Yes, that was a very good idea, Anna. Thanks to your link I am now a reformed gypsy-basher and have seen the error of my horrible lifestyle. No more caravan-bombing for me, that's for sure...
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
08:30 / 01.12.04
How do you know I'm white? How do I know you're black? Are you, by any chance, trying to play that race card Benny the Ball just mentioned?

All _I_ know is that you haven't really got the hang of how to interact with grown-ups. This is saddening, but not really my problem, and I don't think it's a race issue - children come in all shapes and colours.

Now, do you have anything worthwhile to say? We can take from your previous post to this thread that you reserve the right to carry on whacking in any racist bollocks you feel is somehow amusing to your limited sensibilities, regardless of its effect on the rest of the board or its members, and then claim that it is not racist because you say it isn't. If this is the case, then we can factor that into working out how to deal with you.

So, what do you reckon, people? Before this latest outburst, I was hoping that a resolution could be reached, but it looks like PsionicNurse is too self-righteous tto work out how to do that, so we may have to deal with rather than deal with, if you see what I mean. So, any suggestions? I am reluctant to ban people for any reason, and also reluctant to edit post content for any reason, so how do we want to do it? Discussion in Policy, followed by - what? A formal warning if there is a consensus? Moving the matter up to Tom? I would suggest that use of hate speech or racially abusive language, where there is no contextual justification, is equivalent to trolling.

In the meantime, PsionicNurse seems to think here that I am the only person who thinks that calling gypsies smelly and stupid is offensive. Bearing in mind her limited language skills, she appears to have missed the comments from Spatula, Bed Head, Anna... but could anyone else who is not wild about this new and exciting trend on Barbelith possibly add their voice here or by PM? Cheers.
 
 
Spaniel
08:52 / 01.12.04
Well, I've already made my feelings known over in Comics: I don't like racist humour.

I'd like to suggest a cooling off period. Nurse obviously feels attacked, and is acting up. I suggest that she take the time to explore the board's attitude to racism a little further

threads here, here, here, here, here

Aw, fuck it, just run a google search and you'll come up with a zillion hits.

Nurse, I know I'm going to come off as a patronising arsehole, but you really could learn something from reading through some of the threads I've linked to. And, as a bonus, many of the arguments make pretty good reading.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
09:25 / 01.12.04
I'm not sure what a cooling-off period is likely to achieve. The broken window effect is already kicking off - see here. Those gypsies just don't stop being funny...

What I would recommend is getting Tom's thoughts on this ASAP. I'll drop him a line. I'm happy to make no further comment until then unless PsionicNurse says something that requires a response for the above reasons about challenging racist language and the defence of its use. As such, that is her choice. However, I would still like anyone with thoughts above whether it's acceptable behaviour to share them here; I think PN is on the verge of claiming the support of a "silent majority"...
 
 
Our Lady Has Left the Building
09:50 / 01.12.04
Spatula Clarke What's possibly more worrying is that, not for the first time in recent memory, a fuckwitted piece of bigoted shit has been posted and read without attracting negative comment from a section of the board. Nice going, people.

Well yes, because by the time I read the thread I didn't have anything to add to what people like Haus had already said, so obviously I should have posted something long and angry there, ignoring how Haus was saying he was going to start this thread to discuss it. I'm now typing this one handed while I have a large Union Jack tattoo being done on my other arm. I'm getting the vicious doberman this afternoon.

I presume that some evil moderator has deleted your condemnatory message from that discussion to try and make your message here look rather silly and hypocritical?

PsionicNurse Ooo Haus, the liberator and emancipator of downtrodden and ill-treated minorities the world over. Will you save all the little brown children and protect Chinese pensioners from persecution? Your medal is in the mail, hero (a medal to help assuage your white guilt). Get a hobby you fucking lame-o (and yes, I can't speak English properly but that can most likely be attributed to the fact that I'm black). Yes, that was a very good idea, Anna. Thanks to your link I am now a reformed gypsy-basher and have seen the error of my horrible lifestyle. No more caravan-bombing for me, that's for sure...

I WAS going to suggest a 'time out' function on the board, where suits can be prevented from posting to the board for a period of time but
1) If the board was opened to people to rejoin then a banned suit user could easily rejoin just to continue the argument
2) This would presumerably involve programming, which Tom can't do and has no current access to anyone who can do it (if I understand the situation correctly)
3) After that post, I'd be quite happy to have PN kicked from the board. Not so much an apology for any offense ze might have caused, more an example that ze IS a racist fuckwit.


Yet again, this is an example of why spidering the board was a bad idea. If it hadn't been I'd be happy to try and huggle the 'wits until they either got clues or imploded but as it has I think Barbelith's existence as a place where racists, homophobes and their ilk get short shrift is more important than it's existence as a place where free speech rules.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
10:10 / 01.12.04
Well yes, because by the time I read the thread I didn't have anything to add to what people like Haus had already said, so obviously I should have posted something long and angry there, ignoring how Haus was saying he was going to start this thread to discuss it. I'm now typing this one handed while I have a large Union Jack tattoo being done on my other arm. I'm getting the vicious doberman this afternoon.

Calm, Flowers. It's not a personal attack on you, it's a general comment. As mentioned, I think there is a balance to be struck between condemnation and threadrot, and I don't think that balance has been agreed. Gumbitch thinks we should take it outside and get back to the trivia, sleazenation presumably feels it is profitable to address it in-thread still. You're doing what you feel is the right thing by responding in this thread. Personally, I think making it clear to PN that her behaviour is not acceptable is one aim, but another aim is making it clear to others that behaviour of this kind is not acceptable. If PN isn't the student, she may be the lesson...

More generally, I'm pondering whether we have to widen this to the Conversation... if there is a popular mandate to allow racist language and statements on Barbelith to go unchallenged, we probably have to respond to that... I don't think there is - at least, I hope there isn't - but there are some people who, it seems, will not be happy with the dead hand of political correctness on their throats, and we should try to work out how best to increase their happiness, possibly by recommending another board they might enjoy.
 
 
sleazenation
10:28 / 01.12.04
I posted in the Marvel thread before half a dozen more posts were added. I thought about posting it here, but thought PN unlikely to read it if posted here. I also thought about both adding a link and a request to move all the PN discussion stuff to here to the post I made, but figured that since the point was merely to demonstrate that PN's comments were not acceptable, that a link would be unecessary.

I'd also decided against adding a line indicating my vague interest in discovering what PN thought was 'seditious' about his comments, but felt that this was also getting away from the point.
 
 
Spaniel
10:33 / 01.12.04
I'm pondering whether we have to widen this to the Conversation...

Would seem necessary.
 
 
Spatula Clarke
10:43 / 01.12.04
"A section of the board", Flowers. Strange that you missed that, having included it in the quote. It took 24 hours for any of the regulars to Comics (and I'm not a regular there, but plenty are) to confront PN about hir comments. They were even posted twice, the second time as a quote, without anybody pointing out that something wasn't quite right qith them.

Nicely victimised outraged outburst, though. Feel better.

It's the same thing that happened with the anti-semitic posting in Temple and the "aren't the Japanese crazy" thread in Conversation - they're read, they're replied to, and yet it's taken a disturbing amount of time for those attitudes to be questioned.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
11:11 / 01.12.04
Well, I think that might be in part the way the board is organised. If you're on page 11 of a Marvel Comics trivia thread, you might feel that answering a question about whether The Scarlet Witch speaks with an accent is more important than questioning the description of gypsies in the question, because the Scarlet Witch is important and relevant and real gypsies are not. Likewise, as mentioned in the "anti-Semitism" thread, if you are interested primarily in magic, then "the Jews are using majickke as part of their attempt to conquer the world" might raise the question "really? What sort of majickke?" rather than "Are you on crack?". If you're not interested in the Scarlet Witch's accent or magic to the exclusion of the broader context, you may well not be reading the thread. I'm afraid I don't recall the thread on the Japanese, Spatula - do you have a reference?

Simply, some people now on Barbelith have interests which they want to pursue to the exclusion of other considerations, and which they will if given the opportunity. Others are just really very stupid, and whether simply being so stupid that pretty much everything you say reduces the overall value of Barbelith is something that needs to be moderated/challenged is a further topic of discussion.

It's not all doom and gloom, though. Sometimes racist bollocks gets called very quickly. And then the stupid person accuses the several intelligent and engaged people who have called him on his bullshit of having no sense of humour, of not "getting it"... is any of this familiar? We may have to accept that some people are so convinced of their own rightness that the best we can hope is that we get some sort of middle-management "I know (racist/homophobic/sexist/otherwise hateful bollocks) is true(funny), but it isn't politically correct to say it", which is not ideal, but as long as it leads to them not saying it, rather than saying "I know (racist/homophobic/sexist/otherwise hateful bollocks)is true(funny), but it isn't politically correct to say it" would be progress. Otherwise... well, we're back to the first question. How do you moderate/administrate somebody who is refusing to examine their statements because they are convinced that they are justified and everybody else is stupid/humourless/PC gone mad or similar?
 
 
Spatula Clarke
11:20 / 01.12.04
This is the thread I was thinking of, but it's also an attitude that's been visible in others - I vaguely remember at least one F,TV&T thread containing a number of "yes, they all sniff used pants" posts.

as long as it leads to them not saying it, rather than saying "I know (racist/homophobic/sexist/otherwise hateful bollocks)is true, but it isn't politically correct to say it" would be progress

That's not progress, though. It's a sideways move, avoidance. It's allowing racism/homophobia/sexism to continue to exist, as long as it's not voiced. I'm not sure that it's any sort of solution.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
11:36 / 01.12.04
I think prurience and people being a bit confused by other cultures is probably something a degree of which is inevitable. I am always a bit surprised when people who seem to have a limited idea of what is going on object strenuously to other people trying to tell them, but it's not unusual - like being bewildered and disgusted by pony play being so much more important than actually finding out what it is that any attempt at clarification of what it is or involves is met with hostility and incomprehension. The question, I suspect, is where and when it becomes necessary to take action, and whether that action should be technical (kicking, deleting posts) and where social (more people calling the people who do it on it).
 
 
Regrettable Juvenilia
11:50 / 01.12.04
For as long as Barbelith policy continues to be that people who make racist remarks unrepentently can continue to post on the board, those of us who oppose racism clearly have a duty to make those people feel unwelcome in whatever way we can. I would hope that PsionicNurse *does* feel attacked - and harrassed, and ganged up on, and made to feel unwelcome here - because hir racism is clearly very entrenched, and so is *not* welcome here.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
11:57 / 01.12.04
That's not progress, though. It's a sideways move, avoidance. It's allowing racism/homophobia/sexism to continue to exist, as long as it's not voiced. I'm not sure that it's any sort of solution.

Well, it's not a solution for _society_. It's a solution for _Barbelith_ and Barbelith alone. In a perfect world, we would be able to stop people _being_ racist, sexist or whatever, but we've already established that some people who we think are being do not think they are being, and will therefore not amend their behaviour. Given time and a bit of discussion, that may change. However, and possibly parallel to that, there's the idea that certain things are just not things we want to see on Barbelith, because they will create or contribute to an atmosphere where people who are broadly good for Barbelith don't post and people who are broadly bad for Barbelith do. So, we could shortcircuit the whole "this is a racist statement/ no it isn't/ yes it is/no it isn't" bullshit by taking action...

Think of it as the difference between psychoanalysis and cognitive behavioural therapy...
 
 
Hattie's Kitchen
12:20 / 01.12.04
Sigh...

like being bewildered and disgusted by pony play being so much more important than actually finding out what it is that any attempt at clarification of what it is or involves is met with hostility and incomprehension.

Pardon me, but I think you're ever so slightly misrepresenting that thread. At no point did the original poster express disgust at the thought of pony play and when challenged about a rather ropey description of the programme in question, ze admitted to using poor choice of words to describe what ze saw. Be fair.
 
 
Ganesh
12:28 / 01.12.04
At no point did the original poster express disgust at the thought of pony play and when challenged about a rather ropey description of the programme in question, ze admitted to using poor choice of words to describe what ze saw. Be fair.

Sure, but in the interests of fairness, it's worth pointing out that the admission of "ropey description" (I'd go so far as to say "loaded description" myself) came with a large side-order of rather hostile incomprehension (from the original poster and others) that anyone could po-o-ossibly find this worth remarking upon.
 
 
Hattie's Kitchen
12:38 / 01.12.04
I get your point, Ganesh, but I hardly think lumping this example in with blatant and unrepentant racism is helpful. At least Secret Goldfish held his/her hands up and made some attempt to acknowledge his/her terminology was dubious, even if there is probably still some way to go before you and ze are on kissing terms...
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
12:40 / 01.12.04
What do you mean by "sigh", Hattie? Do you mean "It is so obvious that this comment is going to inspire universal disappointment that I need only employ this simple phoneme"? Or do you have a bronchial complaint? This isn't a LiveJournal, you know.

S_G, having conceded, eventually and after much rudeness, wrongness and poor parsing, such as:

well - I wrote 'a man persuaded two girls to dress up like horses'. True.

No value judgement. Nothing. Just fact. So what are you getting your knickers in such a twist for?


and

Ok - if i had said - the girls 'were persuaded' to do what they did, rather than 'the guy persuaded them', you would not have caused all this fuss. there was never any question of *coercion*, as you'd know if you'd actually bothered to watch the programme.

He did manage perhaps the grumpiest acceptance ever that he had completely hallucinated a section where an old man persuaded some naked women to dress up as ponies (the entirety of his description of the insert):

Let's just agree that the use of the word 'persuaded' was ill-advised on my part - ok? (actually, of course, it was _utterly incorrect_, making its usage certainly but not simply ill-advised)

Relative to the girls - the guy *was* old. I'm not sure why you think this implies coercion. Perhaps it's your own age prejudice kicking in?....Now that you've called the rib nurse out, perhaps he or she could inject you with a sense of proportion to boot?


Then demanded that we all accept of his *utterly incorrect* description that:

It wasn't THAT BAD!!

Probably an olympic lack of grace rather than any deep-seated bigotries, but that's not really my concern. It follows, in a milder form, the pattern of saying something stupid, refusing to admit that anyone has a right to take offence, finally accusing anyone of disagreeing with oneself of being humourless/having no sense of proportion, and then demonstrating that not a single lesson has been learned.

However, as I have mentioned before, being grumpy or silly is not a banning offence. It was an example only of how there is a point where simple obstreperousness and ignorance are not necessarily huge issues, but can and IMHO should nonetheless be challenged.
 
 
Ganesh
12:51 / 01.12.04
At least Secret Goldfish held his/her hands up and made some attempt to acknowledge his/her terminology was dubious

Eventually, grudgingly, with bad grace - by which time I'd had to explain, repeatedly, why the wording was dubious, provoking additional charges of thread-derailing.

I agree it's not the same thing as unrepentant racism, but I do think that thread has some relevance to the central question being asked here: how should moderators and the board in general be responding to dubious potential 'ism's? In that case, the reasons why some of us found the wording dubious were discussed (or perhaps defended) in-thread, but the strength of the initial 'don't be so fucking sensitive' reaction was such that it was eventually taken to PM.

So, as a way of addressing things, does calling someone on their terminology within the thread work?
 
 
STOATIE LIEKS CHOCOLATE MILK
12:54 / 01.12.04
Regarding Secret Goldfish- Grumpy though it was, it was at least, to my mind anyway, an attempt (albeit hamfisted) to engage with the fact that offence had been caused. Which, I would argue, is a related though slightly different problem to the one we have here.

As I just insinuated in the Comics thread (before having read most of this- apologies for carrying it on over there. I've stopped now), this is more reminiscent of MISTER!!! Byrne, who, (while I would hesitate before actually calling him consciously racist) having made a comment (on his own board, I'll grant him that) which could be construed as racist and misogynistic (well, truth be told, it was hard NOT to construe as racist and misogynistic) then compounded his offence a millionfold by refusing to accept that anyone could possibly have taken offence. (Perhaps we need a new variant of Godwin's Law for bringing JB into arguments?)

Frankly, this is an attitude and mode of behaviour which I'm also not partial to, personally.
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
12:59 / 01.12.04
an attempt (albeit hamfisted) to engage with the fact that offence had been caused

Well, actually that "knickers had been twisted" and "fuss" had been caused. Compare that with the need in PsionicNurse's and Cromagnet's case to claim that anyone who disagreed was "crying" and had "soiled their underwear". For some reason, womanish displays of emotion and pants seem to be the order of the day in these "You have no right to question" responses...
 
 
ONLY NICE THINGS
13:10 / 01.12.04
(Perhaps we need a new variant of Godwin's Law for bringing JB into arguments?)

NobByrne's law?
 
 
Sekhmet
13:13 / 01.12.04
Maybe we should focus more on establishing a real hard-and-fast policy about what constitutes a banning offense, and how it gets dealt with, and by whom. Otherwise, we're going to end up with people claiming they've been victimized by Haus, or singled out by the "PC Police"... If there's an established code of conduct and a set procedure to follow, it'll be harder for anyone to rally a defense or claim prejudice.

So - do we kick someone off the first time they say something offensive, or give them an official warning of some kind? Perhaps establish a three-strikes-out system? Does there need to be a majority vote by the mods to get someone removed, or just one or two people appealing to Tom? Is Tom the final arbiter in this sort of decision or should he bow to the opinions of the mod panel? And finally, is there already something in the wiki about this, and if so, does it need to be modified?
 
 
Spaniel
13:14 / 01.12.04
Fly, I don't just want to make racism unwelcome, I want to change people's behaviour, a goal which I think this community can achieve, if only to a limited extent.

I remember a time when I would make racist jokes, but it was okay 'cause I was being dead ironic.
The thing is, had I been on the receiving end of some of the entirely justifiable but vitriolic posts that Barbelith is prone to churn out, I'm sure my reaction would have been immature, inarticulate and petulant.

I know, I know, I know I'm being impractical and I can understand why people would like a space that simply isn't graced by the joys of racism, but I can't help but remember an eighteen year-old me who probably could have done with a Barbelith.
 
  

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